The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on, and that opinion comes with an entire set of stereotypes, fueled by racist ideology, a complicated past, and sometimes even pop culture.Kanye West once rapped about how successful black men will "leave your ass for a white girl," and then put himself into that box by marrying a white woman, furthering the pervasiveness of flawed, generic ideas about interracial relationships.In case you’re unfamiliar with the premise of the show, a man and a woman who have been matched by a panel of experts, marry each other “at first sight.” Meaning, they meet and marry their spouse on the same day.The couple move in and live as husband and wife for 90 days before they have to make the decision to either stay married or get a divorce.Fully a quarter of black men who got married in 2013 married someone who was not black.Only 12% of black women married outside of their race.Redskins linebacker Lynden Trail usually poses questions to his Facebook followers, but when he asked about interracial dating, Trail got a divisive answer from a football fan.
I have my own unique experiences and some of them include having dated women who are white, but because interracial dating is such a historically tense and loaded subject, it's hardly ever looked at with any understanding or compassion for the people personally involved.
The idea sounds wild but it’s not that much unlike arranged marriages. Still, after today, I’m giving the network and their experts the side eye. In a video, where the experts discuss and decide which men to cast for the show, one of the experts said:“Many of our African American men have no interest in marrying an African American woman.
Many of our African American women want husbands who are of the same race. It’s not supported by any data.”An expert for the show contacted Brunson explaining that the statement was referencing their applicant pool specifically and not a statement about the nature of dating trends in the general population. Joseph Cilona came through and tried to insult Brunson.
As many times as we’ve heard and seen this narrative, I should be numb to it. However, you might be interested to know that we observed this to be very clear and a specific trend, not only in our matchmaking attempts in Atlanta for season 3, but also in both season 1 and season 2 in the New York area.
But still, watching it, I felt a sense of betrayal and then sadness for these brothas and their latent and blatant self hatred. We consistently had an abundance of what we considered to be rather amazing African American women and little to no African American men to match with them.